I’ve worked with over 1,000 kids—the ones with high emotional intelligence use these 6 phrases

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I've worked with numerous children and families dealing with illness, trauma, grief, and loss. I've noticed the words and actions that show a child is learning to deal effectively with life's inevitable challenges.

They're skilled at recognizing their emotions and using helpful techniques to control and manage them.

Pay attention to what kids with high emotional intelligence might say:

It's perfectly fine to feel sad.

It's perfectly normal for anyone to experience a range of emotions and to express them in their own way.

It's normal to feel sad, angry, or frustrated when faced with difficult situations. It's just as natural to have happy, joyful, or lighthearted moments even when things are tough.

I need some space.

Kids who are usually good at handling stress are aware of what's going on inside their emotions. They can spot the signs - racing thoughts, a pounding heart, tight muscles, or a feeling of sickness in their tummy - and don't hesitate to ask for help when they need it.

They might take a few moments to use their pre-planned self-calming tools to help themselves relax. For instance, they could pick up a pinwheel or release bubbles to aid in their deep breathing.

They likely developed these skills by observing their parents demonstrate self-regulation and open communication.

3. 'Are you okay?'

, adults and children alike can have strong emotions when facing tough situations, and how people deal with them varies.

It's understandable if they feel upset, and they might need some space or a hug, and either option is perfectly fine.

It comes naturally for them to understand and share the feelings of others, and they show a genuine ease and comfort when listening to another's point of view, respecting their needs and working together seamlessly.

They know that even when their parent is upset or emotional, they can still be loved, taken care of, and protected.

4. 'I don't like…'

People who know how they'd like to be treated tend to have high emotional intelligence. They can effectively communicate their own needs, wants, and feelings, and are sensitive to others at the same time.

They might say, "I dislike it when you use my belongings without my permission," or, "I don't like the uncertainty of not knowing what to expect." Or you might hear other statements that start with:

• "I'm not okay with…"
• I'd rather not discuss...
• I don't think it's pleasant/humorous when…

They are also considerate of their friends' and family members' needs, viewing such consideration as an essential part of relationships.

5. "I was wrong"

This phrase shows that a child thinks carefully about their actions and isn't bothered by doing something wrong. Instead of being scared of making or admitting mistakes, they can freely discuss the issue and find ways to fix or better it.

through challenges.

6. "I have an idea."

In problem-solving, you can see signs of emotional intelligence and healthy coping mechanisms. Children who have dealt with tough situations have learned to team up with their friends and trusted adults to come up with sensible solutions or find ways to move forward.

They're comfortable voicing their thoughts, ideas, and strengths, as well as listening and growing from others.

When kids learn to navigate through challenges and face the repercussions in a safe setting, they can improve their decision-making abilities and learn to be more flexible, while also developing emotional awareness and a positive self-image.

It starts with you

Don't be concerned if your kids aren't doing this yet. Developing emotional intelligence and coping skills takes time and usually starts with the way you raise them.

You simply start by saying these things yourself. Kids learn best by being modeled by you, the things they see you do.

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